You’re strong.
It doesn't mean you want everything to be hard.
If you’re ready for things to feel easier—especially if the military lifestyle feels like an uphill climb—then you’re in the right place.
Because I know is that feeling good is an inside job.
Hi there, I’m Jayla Rae!
While yes—I’m a Milspouse—I’ve never quite felt like a “normal” one
I call myself a Late Career Milspouse, meaning that I met my husband late in his career, and my own.
While that’s “no big deal” and doesn’t take away from my status, it does feel a bit different because there’s such a big community of people who have gone through the ranks alongside their spouse. I didn’t.
I’ve experienced 6 PCS’s and several mini moves, but only one deployment. And while I don’t have kids of my own, I do have amazing step children.
And while all of that is great—there are some people who would assert that that makes me “less than.”
What I’ve learned is that A LOT of us feel a bit left out or abnormal.
But here’s the thing:
We all not only have different experiences and strengths—
We have different personalities, too.
You can learn about how I help you harness the power of your personality with the Enneagram here:
The Enneagram is a personality framework with (9) types
It’s foundation is built on what drives you, what motivates you, and what you are fearful of losing.
It gives us language for why we do what we do (but does not work to justify crappy behavior).
Contrary to what Instagram leads you to believe, the Enneagram is not just a meme that helps you feel “seen”.
It’s actually a deep system mapping your ego structure, defense mechanisms, “core fear”, and the shit you keep hidden from others—and sometimes, yourself.
This is how the Enneagram helped me reconnect to myself in the demanding lifestyle of the military:
➡️ I realized I'm not meant to crank out a long to-do list every day. It’s not where I derive my satisfaction.
➡️ As it turns out, my contribution to military life is to bring balance, emotional expression, both the light + dark, and a judgement-free space to all of you ♥️
➡️ I gave myself permission to celebrate my differences, rather than try to force myself into corners I hate.
This does not, however, mean that I am not actively growing, and sourcing tips + tricks to better my life—oh no!
It just means that I stopped mimicking milspouses around me, and settled into what makes me, me.
Want my support in utilizing the Enneagram as the powerful tool it is?
P.S. Check out some of my favorite Enneagram podcasts, books, and Instagram accounts HERE